Why does this keep getting to me?

Why do the same feelings keep coming back?

If more than one person has called you too sensitive, too much, selfish or cold, you’ve probably wondered whether you’re the problem. This free quiz takes about three minutes. You pick the words people have said to you, describe in your own words how it feels to hear one of them, and see why that feeling keeps showing up in different relationships.

What the quiz shows you

There’s no score and no personality type. Your result is built from your own answers. It explains how your subconscious turns feelings that repeat into programming that runs automatically, and how that programming shapes the way you think about other people’s actions.

Your thinking will match your programming. If your programming says people are out to get you, it will keep making you think people are out to get you, even when they aren’t.

If one word keeps coming up for you, there is a page for it. Things people say about you covers the words people search for most, and each one opens the quiz with that word already picked.